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Do you enjoy burying belongings and then going on a treasure hunt to find them? At some point on our journeys with space/life, many of us observe we put treasurers away for whatever reason. When we find them, we're overjoyed to be reunited. ... See MoreSee Less
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Do you have belongings in your home that still have the tags on them? If you haven't opened the brand new items, it could be time to re-gift, donate, or have a party to set them free! ... See MoreSee Less
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Do you struggle to find the items that you need because they are jumbled? This form of clutter can create daily stress for some people. Find a place for the belongings that support your life so they can be there for you when you need them. ... See MoreSee Less
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Do you have belongings associated with unfinished projects in your home or office? How long have they languished or waited for you? Do you have items that do not match the intention of the room? Baby shoes on the stove top? Watch to learn about these forms of clutter and ways to find clarity and freedom in your life and space! Enjoy! ... See MoreSee Less
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Do you have belongings associated with unfinished projects in your home or office? How long have they languished or waited for you? Do you have items that do not match the intention of the room? Baby shoes on the stove top? Watch to learn about these forms of clutter and ways to find clarity and freedom in your life and space! Enjoy! ... See MoreSee Less
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Do you have the Just Too Much form of clutter in your home or office? It can be suffocating! Enjoy this next video! #LoveYourSpaceLoveYourLife #CherishYourWorld ! ... See MoreSee Less
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There are six types of clutter that people navigate The Unloved Ones, Needed, but Jumbled Items, Wandering Nomads, Just Too Much, Brand New Never Used, Artifacts of Unfinished Business. I created these names/descriptions to help people better understand and take action. In this video I share about The Unloved Ones through the example of a piano. ... See MoreSee Less
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Physical and Mental ClutterHere's a way to clear some physical and mental clutter from your space and your life. #CherishYourWorld #LoveYourSpaceLoveYourLife #transformations #declutter #TransformationMatters #instafam ... See MoreSee Less
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Here's a way to clear some physical and mental clutter from your space and your life. #CherishYourWorld #LoveYourSpaceLoveYourLife #transformations #declutter #TransformationMatters #instafam ... See MoreSee Less
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A huge thank you to Jeff Wasserstrom of JAW Dropping Promotions for his support and collaboration to create this beautiful gift book of 100 tips. This gift book is dedicated to Jeff Young, the LinkedIn Guru, who encouraged us to post weekly on Linkedin and inspired me to write these, to Ken Lazar of Ability Professionals, who allowed me to share many of these tips each week at Tuesday Tune-up, and to all my friends from Tuesday Tune-up. who appreciated them. I am forever grateful to all of you. You kept me going forward and strong-more than you'll ever know- through the most difficult time period of my adult life. With heartfelt gratitude and joy, I present my second book. ... See MoreSee Less
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Tip of the Week-Cherish Your World Clear All Types of ClutterOften physical, emotional, or mental clutter blocks quality life experiences. Being vulnerable and courageous in releasing even one of these types of clutter allows for growth and sometimes the emergence of inspiration. Bravely begin to take steps to clear a pathway, and see what emerges. ... See MoreSee Less
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Artifacts of Unfinished BusinessPart One in a Five-Part Series on the Types of ClutterIn my consultations, talks, workshops, and conversations, our discussions often turn toward clutter, and with good reason: Clutter collects in almost every home and workspace, and it has tremendous negative impacts on the people who are surrounded by it. But when we talk about clutter, we are often talking about very different things. Clutter comes in different types, each fueled by different thoughts, impulses, and habits. The types of clutter also affect us differently, and they require different clean-up strategies. Clutter tends to fit into the following types:• Artifacts of Unfinished Business: This clutter consists of ignored items connected to projects that you haven’t started or haven’t finished. These might include supplies for home improvement projects or boxes you need to unpack or sort through.• The Unloved Ones: This clutter consists of belongings that were once used, needed, or loved (or all of these), but now they gather dust and have for months or even years.• The Needed but Jumbled Items: This clutter is made up of belongings that you need and use regularly, but they are in disarray. These items require some organization to be sensibly placed and easy to access when they’re needed.• Just Too Much: With this clutter, you have too much of a particular type of item (such as books or collectibles) or too many items of various types. Sometimes these items fill a room and you cannot move freely through it. This type of clutter is common in junk rooms, attics, basements, and drawers. Hoarding is the extreme expression of this type of clutter.• The Wandering Nomads: These are items that have been placed in a room or another space whose purpose they don’t serve, as with library books piled on the kitchen table. The items are easy to find—but they don’t belong where they are, causing incongruity in the space where they now “live.”In this essay, we will explore artifacts of unfinished business: clutter associated with projects we intended to begin or began and then stopped. This clutter includes the art supplies from a neglected hobby that lie shoved in a corner, the half-finished deck at the back of the house that sighs as we walk by, the broken furniture in the basement that awaits restoration work, and the piles of unread books that hold worlds we once wanted to explore. Sometimes these items silently nag at us, reminding us of all the things we wanted to do—or thought we should do. In other cases, the items have languished for so long that we don’t even notice them; they become the suppressed scenery in the backdrop of our spaces. At a recent talk I attended, the presenter spoke about the “creative avoidance” involved in procrastination. Rather than tackle things that are difficult but important, such as unfinished projects in our homes, we spend time on other activities instead. These distracting activities might feel good in the short term, but they do not deliver the results we actually want. Procrastination can have real consequences for us even beyond the results we don’t achieve. Unfinished tasks can fill us with self-doubt, fear, and shame as time goes by; we know what we aren’t doing and sometimes why we aren’t doing these things. This can dampen our sense of accomplishment and creativity.Why do we have these artifacts of unfinished business? Sometimes we genuinely lack the time to do the projects. At other times, we struggle with unfocused enthusiasm or lack of intention. Some people like starting projects but not following through. And sometimes life challenges force us to put projects on the back burner. At its core, most clutter is about fear. We may fear not being good enough or not having enough in the future. We might be worried about having too little time and money. With unfinished business, we may fear that the finished product will be disappointing, causing us to wish we hadn’t spent time and money on it. Maybe we fear that we don’t know enough or that we can’t get the needed support to complete the project. Others in our homes often know what our unfinished projects are, and they may be visibly annoyed. Sometimes our loved ones remind us of the projects we haven’t tended to. This can add another layer to the feelings of shame, inadequacy, or resignation, if these feelings are in play.When we resist completing unfinished business despite pushback by our loved ones, this can point to other interpersonal issues. We may be ignoring these projects, our self-care needs, and even the important people in our lives as we distract ourselves. Or we may be engaged in a power struggle with another person in the home. The unfinished-business clutter can represent our resistance to being controlled. In other situations, we think thoughts that are not true about the unfinished business; these thoughts seem true because they are stories we have repeated. We tell ourselves that the task will take too long, cannot be solved, or “I don’t know where to take these things”—to name just a few of our unproductive stories.Oprah Winfrey says, “Life whispers to you all the time. Your life is speaking to you all around, from the time you wake up in the morning, in every single experience that’s coming into your personal space. All of those experiences are speaking to you. They’re telling you something about your life and about your circumstances. It whispers, and if you don’t get the whisper, the whisper gets louder.” In feng shui, the incomplete tasks in our physical spaces whisper to us even when we try to ignore them, and sometimes that whisper becomes a shout. A shocking or urgent event can be the “shout” to break us out of our patterns of resistance. A serious health challenge, the passing of a loved one, or a calamity can wake us up, and we act with focus and urgency.A friend of mine shared that she had been asking her husband to clear out a section of the garage for years so the family’s cars could fit inside, and he had many excuses for why he couldn’t do it, such as “There’s nowhere to put all this stuff” and “We can never fit another car in the garage.” His daughter’s vehicle remained parked outside of the garage, getting covered with snow in the winter and becoming uncomfortably hot in the summer. Then one day, a severe thunderstorm warning with the strong possibility of hail spurred him into action. He envisioned the hail damaging his daughter’s car, which she had not yet finished paying off.Thirty minutes later, he had cleared an entire section of the garage and parked his daughter’s vehicle there. The sandbox of their children’s early years left the property. (The youngest child was 14 and the eldest was 24; no one had used that sandbox in years.) His daughter’s vehicle escaped damage when the hail did indeed pelt their neighborhood soon after he pulled her car into the garage. All his previous excuses evaporated when he realized this greater cost, and he worked swiftly with intention and purpose. What creates urgency when there isn’t a thunderstorm rolling into our lives? You can often jump-start this sense of urgency by imagining what your home and life can look and feel like free of unfinished clutter. What will it feel like seeing people you love laughing together on that finished deck? How about when you no longer walk by dusty art supplies that told a story of how you don’t finish things you start, or when a piece of furniture is fully restored and the rest of the broken furniture is gone? Let yourself imagine the joy, freedom, and other positive feelings you will have when these projects are completed. (Keep in mind that completion can be you removing the objects associated with projects that no longer fit who you are and what you want to do.)The “thunderstorm” within you can be as simple as the desire for a pleasant and welcoming home that inspires your creativity, rest, and play. In addition, you may yearn to be free of unfinished business and unburdened by reminders of things undone. When you have this vision of your better life, you can take action to complete these projects or free yourself of the artifacts of unfinished projects. Actions, even imperfect ones, create results. There’s something powerful about taking a step and then another. This can apply to unfinished business as well: As you take those first steps to address the first project, you can trust that you are making important progress, even when you don’t know how you will complete the other projects (or perhaps even this one). The momentum you create will make each successive step easier.Here are some suggestions to support your shift from creative avoidance to action dealing with unfinished projects:• Create a list of your unfinished projects. It may be a bit overwhelming, but it also might light a fire and help you spot tasks that you could accomplish in an hour. You can also prioritize the projects and work with other members of your household to identify which ones will give you the greatest sense of accomplishment and freedom.• For unfinished-business clutter that is related to things you once wanted to do, ask yourself these questions: What do I really want for myself and my life right now? Can I free myself from this project because it no longer inspires me? Can I give these items to someone else who would love them? • Choose one unfinished project, and schedule a block of time to complete it. If needed, ask others in your household not to disturb you until it’s done. Alternatively, you can ask for their help in getting it complete. • Take that first step—any small action. Actually touch the unfinished project or open the closet and take some of the items down and look at them. What do they feel like in your hands? Put the timer on for five minutes and take action until the timer beeps. Then if you feel motivated to continue, set the timer for a longer period—maybe 15 or 60 minutes, depending on your schedule and energy—and keep the momentum going.• As you make progress, however small, stop to appreciate the boxes that are leaving the house, the overstuffed trash cans, the shredded papers, and the now-repaired household items. You can see yourself as a person who can take actions and get things done in place of those old stories about yourself.• Ask yourself whether the patterns with your unfinished-business clutter are taking place in other areas of your life as well. Are you neglecting needed medical appointments and other forms of self-care? Are you ignoring issues with loved ones? If so, schedule time to take these self-care actions and take steps to explore and address your loved ones’ needs.• If it is feasible, consider hiring people to complete the projects that you are least qualified to do or least interested in doing. For instance, you can make a list of several small projects that you have found vexing, and hire a handyman or woman to complete those projects quickly and proficiently. In some cases, the trade-off for time and results makes great sense. ... See MoreSee Less
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Just Too Much -Part Four of a Five-Part Series on Clutter

This series of essays describes how clutter comes in different types, each with its own causes, effects, and management strategies. Most clutter fits into the following types:

In this essay, we will tackle what can be a formidable form of clutter in our homes: excess items, or Just Too Much. Some of us have “pockets” of excess—particular items that we collect in excess. During my children’s childhood, one of these pockets flowed into our home in the form of often-stepped-on Legos. My son had a passion for creating many amazing objects, so I kept treating him on special occasions to more Legos. Some of us have moved beyond the pockets of excess to have too many items overall. The Just Too Much clutter can tumble out of closets, overflow from drawers that won’t close, or fill an entire room that we’ve been tossing “whatever” into for years. Whether it consists of pockets of excess or too many items overall, Just Too Much clutter can have negative effects on our finances and our well-being.

Just Too Much clutter is the easiest type of clutter to identify, because too many belongings in too small a space create a suffocating feel. At its extreme, this type of clutter packs the homes of hoarders with too many of all kinds of detritus mixed with functional belongings buried underneath decades-old magazines and newspapers. However, you don’t have to be a hoarder for Just Too Much clutter to have negative effects on your life, so I recommend taking steps to avoid moving in that direction.

The excessive accumulation of particular items happens for many reasons, including a passion for something that can lead us toward collectibles. The desire to buy a figurine or a popular stuffed animal or two sometimes creates a perceived need to have the entire line. As humans, we seem to love to collect things, and for many of us, this began in childhood, when we may have started collecting stamps, pennies, or dolls. I have walked into many homes where it’s immediately clear that I’m with a collector of things. For some of them, the collections have multiplied, and they’ve run out of spaces to display their collections.

Some of us collect things that we don’t recognize as collections or even as excess items. For example, you might collect books excessively, but they are spread around the house so that you don’t notice the daunting number. Or you might collect DVDs or shoes, but have them tucked away neatly so that the excess is less apparent. Many of us have acquired accidental collections of useful items, too. For you, it may be food containers and lids that seem to give birth to quadruplets in your kitchen cabinets. And what about all those plastic bags from the grocery store that start to puff out the bag that holds other bags?

You may think that the pockets of Just Too Much are not a big deal (and in some cases they aren’t), but it’s often worthwhile to explore that a bit deeper. How do you feel when you walk past these items, when you pick them up? Does joy flood your heart, or do you feel unease or perhaps boredom? You might have mixed feelings—general happiness about the items, but also discomfort with the excessiveness. Do the items cause you to reflect upon happy memories and connotations, or do you think about the money spent on them? Also, how much truth is there to the stories you have told yourself about the items? We may justify the purchases of these items but then complain because we don’t have enough money for experiences we’d like to have. We may think we’ll read all those books or use every one of those containers, but we don’t. Many of us think someday I will use this, but “someday” doesn’t come or by the time it does, we forget that we have it in our home.

We all have reasons for over-acquiring possessions, and it can help to gently explore yours. In all of its forms, the Just Too Much clutter can be a way to mitigate the “not enough” anxiety—feeling as though we don’t have enough or are not enough. Motivated by this flavor of fear, we gather more makeup, shoes, clothes, toothbrushes, and tools. Maybe we stash them in odd places, sometimes with the price tags still on them. Advertisements are designed to feed this anxiety of “not enough,” and we end up with Just Too Much to compensate for feeling less than we really are. This “not enough” thinking may be a fear-based, limiting belief that is not accurate. I encourage you to consider that you are enough and that you have enough … maybe more than enough!

Sometimes the anxiety has been fueled by attunement to current events, as hurricanes and tornadoes have devastated entire cities. We might stock up on fundamentals for a predicted disaster, which makes sense, but we might buy far more than we need and continue this pattern after the storm has passed. Sometimes we see disasters happening in other cities and stock up in case a similar disaster happens to us. While this is understandable, it can be a problematic and expensive way to manage anxiety.

Anxiety is not the only motivation to acquire excessive belongings. Some of us accumulate things because belongings do not hurt us emotionally or physically, as people can. Inanimate objects don’t yell at us, say unkind things, or abandon us. So we fill our spaces with belongings, and maybe we find ourselves cautious about creating vulnerable and meaningful connections with people. In more extreme cases, belongings become an actual buffer: Some people with excessive items no longer invite people to their homes because of all the excess that now seems like a shameful secret.

The Just Too Much clutter often has unpleasant consequences, especially when it is widespread. If it stays in our homes for a long time, we can feel stymied by the excess and find that important areas of our lives have come to a standstill. We may feel stuck with regard to career opportunities, fulfilling experiences, or optimal health. We might wonder why we don’t want to take inspired actions or even get out of bed in the morning. Just Too Much often blocks the flow of joy as we become numb to the excess and to other things as well. All of these scenarios build up to a painful situation until you bravely choose to interrupt it.

Can you begin to let go of the excess you have and continue to deepen beautiful and meaningful connections to people? What matters the most in your life? What could your life feel like free of the excess? Can you find a balance point? It takes courage to make this shift away from Just Too Much to a reasonable amount and to experiences that make your heart sing. Sometimes life challenges you to regroup. Why wait for those shocking wakeup calls?

Sometimes knowing people who have lost everything because of a hurricane, an earthquake, a fire, or a flood creates a catalyst for the courage to let go of your excess. By the grace of God (or whatever term you use), you have not lost everything and are blessed with an opportunity to give. Giving generously of your excess contributes to the lives of many others, and everyone benefits.

Feng shui encourages us to connect in a meaningful way to our belongings, the people in our lives, and our life experiences in a flowing and dynamic way. Finding your balance point with belongings, relationships, and experiences can be a life-giving journey that transforms your home into a haven and your life into one you love living.

Here are some ways you can take steps to let go of the excess belongings in your home:

  • Ask yourself why you continue to acquire throw pillows, figurines, DVDs, or whatever your collectibles are. Are there positive or negative impacts on you with regard to these collections? Are you inspired by your collections or are they beginning to annoy you? Tune into your heart for honest answers and clear, keep, or pare down the items accordingly.
  • Set a timer for 10 or 15 minutes, open a drawer or closet, and place the excess in bags or boxes for donation. If it helps you in the process, imagine where these items will go and how the people who need them will be joyful and grateful to receive them.
  • Take micro-movements, tiny steps, to clear out the excess. Focus on one item at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and if you are incredibly overwhelmed or fearful, seemingly microscopic movements are exactly the actions to take. For example, open the door to the junk room on day one and then walk away. Day two, open the door and step inside. Day three, open the door, walk in, and take a deep breath. Keep building on these brief movements each day. Your courage will build.
  • Seek support from other members of your household. You can ask them what spaces they’d like to tackle or help you tackle, and create inspiring ways to celebrate your progress. It can become a labor of love.
  • Rent a dumpster and use that time to do a deep purge of things that need to be thrown away rather than passed on. Schedule a weekend for the purge and ask friends to come support you as you let go of the excess; perhaps they can bring snacks that everyone can eat as they help you. Wake up early to your favorite morning beverage, roll up your sleeves, and have at it one space at a time. With this approach, you can get a lot of purging done in a brief time.
  • Start in the space that is stuffed the most or the least, depending on your style of attacking the excess clutter. Sometimes if you start in the toughest area, you can reap the maximum freedom and energy to keep going. Alternatively, your style may be to be energized by the incremental steps that keep you moving to the next drawer or closet, and build up to the larger tasks.
  • Plan to limit the new items flowing into your home as you intentionally purge the excess. Begin to distinguish between what you actually need and what items you desire when you go shopping or shop online. You can create a wish list for desires and have the experience of delayed gratification; some things are worth waiting for, and other times you may discover you don’t really want the item when you reassess it later.
  • Make a list of the experiences you’d like to have with people you love. Share this with them. Schedule the experiences and savor them as they take place.

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